TAKE MY HAND

Listen. There is, perhaps, some wisdom being whispered...

YOU'RE INVITED!

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LETTING THE ENTRAILS SPEAK

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HAPPIER, HEALTHIER MEN, TODAY

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Short: An Open Heart is Enough

“We work in the dark —we do what we can —we give what we have.” (Henry James) And, invariably, all that we do and all that we give is never enough. The appetite of the world and of love is insatiable. Yet, if done and given with a whole and

HUSBANDRY & GARDENS & TENDERNESS...

How do I attend thee, my beloved?

SHE IS ENDLESS

There is so much to do...

I AM HERE, STUMBLING INTO MYSELF

There is no end to this restless tide.

FOR MEN, THIS FALL

WALKING, INTIMACY, WEDDINGS, MARRIAGE, DEATH.

HOW I KNOW MY WAY

What I am learning: the qualities that I want to make a problem may be showing up in my life for reasons other than for me to judge them.

SHORT: THE LITTLE THINGS

…only when I am slow enough do I notice…

SHORT: THE HARDEST THING?

There is no doing here. Just being, with an open heart. Sometimes, it’s the hardest thing. -Rev. Hans

ABOUT MARRIAGE (& DYING), Part 1

I believe that crossing the threshold into marriage is one of the most frightening things a man can imagine. For good reason. All who cross are lost.

TO BE DANCED INTO HER UNRAVELING

Now I am trying to complicate things.

IT'S LAUGHABLE

What actually happened?

I AM ALIVE

I've written recently, and several times, that I am happy. How does this happen?

AND WHO WOULD CHOOSE TO SLEEP?

Life —fate, luck, destiny, mystery, love— continues to knock on the door of my heart. And I choose to answer.

MY ACHING HEART

I wait. She may choose to deny herself. Or, with practice, she may choose herself, blossoming.

HER DEMAND IS INFINITE & ALWAYS, TOO MUCH

Two conversations. A man swimming, believing himself to be drowning. A woman, swimming for so long, feeling herself lost without the presence of the eternal.

SHE WOULD BE 65 TODAY. INSTEAD, SILENCE

The world is a whirl of vibrations. I don't always hear the music of it.

WALKING WITH ENVY

I walked with a friend yesterday. Into the forest. ... Listening to the ravens, chattering in their many and strange tongues. Wondering, always: What do they tell me? What, slowed as I am, am I ready to hear?

YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE

At the beginning of this journey I was told to prepare for a thousand days. Now, I am inviting others —and especially men— to step into their own thousand-day journey.

HOW DO I BEST ENJOY THIS LIFE?

Sometimes, I stumble my way onto my path. But only sometimes. Humility matters more than courage, even.

MY BUSINESS IS TO BURN

Today I burn with determination—and joy!