FOUND WHILE FALLING
I’m very sure that prizing balance is pretty much the best way to dampen the fire that lies at the heart of love, marriage
Rev. Hans Peter Meyer
A teacher & coach of authentic relationships I'm working with men and couples to make their lives happier. I'm also a certified Life-Cycle Celebrant™ (weddings, funerals, the rituals of this life).
A MAN'S LEGACY
...let me take a moment to thank the men who, in the absence of fathers, uncles, elders who did not step up to the plate —thank you stepping up to the plate today. You inspire me.
THE SIREN SONG OF SILENCE
To listen to this silence and allow it to show me and more tender, more vulnerable, more receptive, truer way of being…with tears as well as laughter as well as wonder…
NOTICE, FINALLY
It does not come easily to us, true noticing — that transmutation of looking into seeing. We must apprentice ourselves to it daily. It is our life’s work. (Maria Popova)
DO NOT BLOCK THE DRIVEWAY
I should have known better. The signs were there, literally...
THREE TEMPTATIONS
"I am frustrated and feel lonely - deep into my bones. I miss touch and yearn for human connection.... I wonder how one forms and maintains relationships? Of any sorts ... I remain clueless about it and marvel at how others do it."
THIS DANCE WITH DESIRE
...“chasing the dragon” is usually associated with the heroin addict’s constant pursuit of the high. The oblivion. Perhaps the dragon of sexual desire is like this..., and especially for us as men...
HOW I KNOW MY WAY
I think my nervous system is here to tell me something that will help me, not limit me. For me to become myself more fully, I have to trust that my nervous system is doing more than telling me to shut down.
ALL THE TIME
My latest thought: Perhaps it's also important for me to lose time with everyone I meet? It's one of the reasons I choose to spend time with one or two people, rather than in groups. I feel myself too hurried and too protective when even three or four are in conversation. I crave the slow.
THERE IS ONLY THIS, NOW! EXPERIENCE ALL OF IT
There is a siren call to be more of myself, to experience more of myself. I am choosing to listen. To keep things simpler, slower, quieter. And then I begin to hear things, and wonder about things.
I CHOOSE TO EXPERIENCE AWE
One of the most beautiful things I can do for myself and everyone around me is to retrain my nervous system. As a masculine-identified man I'm trained in the defensive/offensive “warrior” mode. There are good reasons for this. Today, there are better reasons to learn something new.
HOW DO I ATTEND THEE?
I used to think this was a 50/50 thing. I used to think that we were equally responsible for this trusting at the crossing. I believed that it was up to this thing called "us," whether the crossing was made or not. This belief was a fundamental failing my relationships. I know differently now.